interim blog

It is not the end of the month but, i felt I would post anyway regarding my current feelings.Anyone can say "oh, I have things on my mind" but it is something different to share these things so others understand where one is. Where to even begin? Let me begin I guess with my impending birthday. Mind you, this B-day is not significant, it is not like I am hitting 40, only 36. That though is not what is bugging me. What is bugging me is the fact that my mother told me she plans to retire next year and go back to NC.She will be 70 at that time. There are several problems I see with this. One, my mother's place is trashed. It Always has been, and I suspect it always will be. My mother is the eternal pack rat, she keeps everything from old magazine articles to old text books to just stuff. All of this would be OK, but she has never, at least that i have known spent any time on anything like it. it seems that she is in denial that all this stuff looms. Now then, I can certainly understand how all this stuff could be daunting, but this is how it has always been, My mother has never really had visitors because she has always been too embarrassed to let anyone in. I swear some times it is like going in to a museum. I just know that when the final day comes, Aylen and I will spend weeks sorting through all of her stuff and throwing it out, because I know she never will. She can't be bothered. Even more immediate, maybe moving her to NC will change her pack-rat-ish ways, but some how i think she will just take her stuff and just move it. Of course, I get to help., who else would? There also comes to a question on if my mother would be happy retired. I think she would find things to do, places to volunteer , etc, but I fear my mom's boredom. She is so active now, would she even know how to act in a slower placed, more rural environment? I feel this is a reasonable question since I do not know of a time anytime in the last 40 years where my mother has not lived in a major area. longer then that truly, since my mother went to nursing school. she graduated in 61 and shortly there after went to Germany. Another question I have is where would she live? would she share a house with Uncle Mack? would that even work? has this even been discussed with him? would that finally break her of saving and collecting everything? and what happens if one of them passes, if uncle mack passes first, would the house go to my mother? or to one of his ungrateful kids? So many questions that do not need to be answered now, but they occur in my head. The next question I have is what the hell am I going to do? Would I stay in Knoxville? would I re locate to a warmer location? Would I finally take the opportunity to get out of Knoxville for good and restart in a new location? would I relocate close to Wilmington? If I did, would I be able to find a job? and if that, one where I was making better or at least the same, cost of living adjusted of course. would I be happier in another location or have I become used to Knoxville? I know that before, that would not have been a question because Aylen was not in the picture, but now, with her with me, I know we could go anywhere and be happy. On the wow front, I have come to the conclusion that running a guild is a necessary evil. Whereas I never wanted any kind of responsibility in a video game, A lot of the time I have been an officer in games. I know that I need the social aspect of it. It is part of who I am, plus I like interacting with people. I have always considered myself to be one of those people that would cross a road to be closer to someone then just continue walking. Some would consider that weird I know, but I have never been one much for being off to myself. That said, I do not do well with BS. I am an easy going person, however I do expect things to be handled a certain way, and if they are not, I get aggravated. I like to think that I expect no more out of people then would I would expect out of myself. If I am going to put trust in someone, they will always be held to that measure. Right or wrong, it is what it is. That leads me to our scatterbrained raid leader. last night, he tried to go in to a raid before our raid and it did not go over very well. 30 min after our raid was supposed to start, I messaged him to see where he was and was told by his add on that they were just on the first set. When he did finally message me back, he asked if we still planned on going or if we were to which I answered no, we canceled it. They then had the cajones to ask if they could get 3 DPS from our guild to finish, when it was our guild that should have been that of concern to begin with. I have no problems with others raiding with different groups, but keep your word. if you are not going to show up fine, but do not ditch our raid to do another one, then do not have the balls to ask if you can have DPS from a group that you were supposed to tend to in the beginning. That was the last thing I said to him last night, and when he came on vent, I logged off of vent and wow. Brenda, our Newest officer did go to their aid, which I do not blame her for, but I knew I was not going to. I even gave up a raid invite to raid with our guild. Perhaps it is too much for Daniel. Maybe we do need to find an alternate raid leader, one that I could trust because I could see how leading raids all the time could be stressful. We did have a new member leave our guild last night without even so much as a screw off. he went to another guild, and I wonder if it had something to do with last Night's raid being canceled? that I am not sure of. Do I have to lead these raids myself? I know I could, with some training and research. Of course, that means at times that I do not get to just raid, but I may be able to do what needs to be done. I definitely need to get the wraps on some things.I know some things frustrate Aylen as well. She got very discouraged last night at the lack of interest in some things. I believe we both need to realize we can't let the will of other ruin our fun. As far as for the alliance (an achievement) I do not even know anyone that could lead that group, and it would have been bad timing anyway. Not everyone is going to like or wish to join things that we wish to do, but that is on them. I suppose anyone that wishes to do fta, would have to do so as a pug.. NP, the alliance outnumber the horde on the server at least here. We both have a problem with taking things to heart. One member of our guild last night almost got kicked because he asked for money in guild to buy a weapon. Begging is something I will not tolerate, because I hate beggars. I bust my ass to get the gold I get, others can do the same. If you can't afford something now, you had better find a way to do without until you can. I will forgive his asking once, if it happens again, he will be asked to leave. We do not need that in our guild. Job wise, I do not suppose the stress is any greater then normal on average. The job just has a tendency to beat people up. Some days I am so emotionally wrecked when i come home from work that it shows through, despite my best efforts. The Hardest days are those when I know I am going far above and beyond when I should even be doing, only to have it go unnoticed or unappreciated. Don't these people see that I am the one trying to help them? to act as a liaison of sorts to try to get their issue resolved? That I actually do care and often times will wear my heart on my sleeve only to have it get broken? That I really do go the distance to make sure things are resolved? *sigh* so often this is truly a thankless job, but it is when I can truly help someone and they realize it is what the pay dirt is for me so to speak. About Aylen. Despite mood swings and depression, Aylen is one of the sweetest girls I have ever met. It is true she can be hard boiled and crass at times, but I believe all of us are like that. I may not always understand her actions, but I do attempt to know reasoning behind her actions. It is crucial in any relationship to communicate, that is why (sometimes begrudgingly) she writes her blog. I have found often times it is easier to write or type something out then it is to openly state something to someone. The point is it works for us, and I am very glad it does. My heart aches when I am not around her. She is after all my love, that is the way it should be. anyway, Those are the thoughts that were on my mind, but in putting them down, like normal, it helps me to see and see what needs to be done. It solidifies things and makes them whole I feel.Until the end of the month,
Spencer